Many parents express frustration that their infants cry when they are placed down. The fact that your infant doesn’t want to be apart from you could appear cute at first. However, with time, babies and parents alike may suffer from sleep deprivation due to their dependence on the other. Do you, as a parent, find yourself pondering what to do when your kid starts crying the second you put him or her down?
Finding a remedy to your baby’s inconsolable crying when separated from you requires first pinpointing the underlying cause of their distress. If your baby starts crying when you put them down, you can find some answers and solutions in this post.
Possible Reasons A Baby Cries When Put Down
When a baby cries after being put down, it is usually due to a behavioral or habitual issue rather than a medical one. Here are several potential causes for your baby’s distress when you put them down.
1. Separation anxiety
For nine months, your baby was safe and sound in your womb, so when you finally hold them in your arms, they will feel just at home. Newborns prefer skin-to-skin contact or being held from the moment they are born. Babies often experience separation anxiety. Almost all toddlers (between the ages of 18 months and three years), according to the research.
Your baby may be content and calm in your arms or lap, but if they start to fuss and move around when you put them in their crib, it may be separation anxiety.
2. New crib or room
Babies require additional time to acclimate to new situations. Your infant may initially resist sleeping in their new cot or in their new nursery. If you’ve been letting your baby sleep in bed with you (in a co-sleeping crib) for a time, and have decided to move them to their own crib in the nursery, they may cry because their body is getting used to the new environment.
While napping on your lap, your baby falls asleep, but as soon as you set them down, they start to wail. Has this ever rung a bell for you before? It’s a relatively typical occurrence with babies. Babies often go asleep as soon as their bellies are full, and if you wake them up, they may cry since they are no longer in their cozy sleep posture.
4. Increased crying
Colic or the PURPLE crying period are two possible explanations for a baby who cries constantly throughout the day. Crying or fussing for more than three hours a day, for more than three days a week, is considered to be infantile colic. It’s not serious and usually goes away on its own.
Between the ages of two and five months, some infants experience a phase known as “purple weeping,” during which they may cry more frequently than usual each week. As with the last issue, this one will sort itself out.
Babies typically cry because they are hungry. Newborns typically cry when they are hungry since they do not yet know how to express this demand through any other means. Keep your infant well-fed and on a regular feeding schedule.
6. Absence of a routine
When infants have established a regular bedtime pattern, they sleep soundly. Babies are less likely to cry and fuss if they are fed and put down for the night at the appropriate times. Perhaps this is the case because they know when to expect a meal or a nap.
7. Need for attention
Babies, especially those who are getting closer to their first birthday, may cry when placed down to get your attention. Your baby may cry when you set them down or leave them alone if they are used to being carried around all the time.
Whether your baby’s weeping has a medical or behavioral basis, there are steps you may do to alleviate the problem. However, you should go to your pediatrician if your baby’s crying disrupts their normal sleep and feeding routine.
How To Put Your Baby To Bed Without Them Crying
Your baby can be trained to stop crying when you put them down, but it will take some time and effort on your part. So that you and your baby can get a decent night’s rest, learning to self-soothe is crucial.
- In other words, you should help kids learn to sleep better. There are a number of techniques you can use to get your baby to sleep when you put them down without any fussing. Your child will learn to calm themselves through sleep training. Either the “cry it out” or “no tears” approach of teaching a baby to sleep on his or her own is available to you. Pick the one that makes you and the baby feel most at ease.
- Place them in the crib while they are still dozing off. If your baby has a habit of nodding off while you’re feeding him or her and this has been linked to separation anxiety, try placing the baby in the crib while he or she is in a light slumber rather than when they are fully asleep.
- Don’t worry; there are ways to calm down. Babies often cry when they are disturbed from a secure posture (from your arms or lap). If you want to break them of this bad habit, the easiest thing to do is to not pick them up as soon as they start crying. Place the baby in the crib and stroke him or her softly to comfort them.
- Gradually introduce them to their new crib. It may be difficult to get your baby to stop crying when you put them down if you’ve been co-sleeping with them. Take baby steps and ease into the new situation. Before naptime, put the baby in his or her crib and read to him or her, or play with him or her in the nursery, until it’s time for bed. They might not cry when you set them down if they are already comfortable in the nursery.
- Provide sustenance for their dreams. If you suspect that hunger is the cause of your baby’s nighttime cries, give them a bottle before bedtime and let them sleep in it. There’s a chance this will help your infant feel full enough to sleep through the night.
- Follow a regular schedule. Your infant will benefit greatly from a regular feeding and nighttime regimen. Set a schedule and be sure to follow it. This can help your infant learn to self-soothe, since he or she will identify sleep or feeding with the routine. In addition, sticking to a pattern will help you take advantage of your baby’s sleep window.
- Have a massage for them, or run them a hot bath. You can also try soothing your infant with an oil massage or a warm, relaxing bath. This will provide them with the comforting physical contact they require to feel safe and protected.
- Time spent with them will be time well spent. Avoid making it a habit to always carry your infant in your arms to prevent them from becoming overly reliant on you. To avoid this, you can put them in a baby carrier or on a play mat so they can play on their own. If they are upset and crying, soothing them by sitting with them and playing with them for a while will help.
Although it might be exhausting, it is common for babies to scream when put down, and there are easy ways to soothe them. In the event that your infant will only stop crying when you are holding them, it may be because they crave your company and have not yet learnt to calm themselves. Give them time to acclimate, and don’t rush things. If your child has been crying for extended periods of time despite your best efforts to establish a nightly routine, feed them, and calm them in their crib, you should take them to the doctor so that they can rule out any medical conditions.
5 Things to Avoid When Sleep Training Your Baby
Feeding or Rocking Your Baby to Sleep
It’s easy to become stuck in a rut when all you’re doing is feeding and soothing your newborn (besides changing diapers, of course). Babies often fall asleep at the conclusion of a meal because they need to eat every two to three hours and their sleep-wake cycles are so erratic. In the early days of life outside the womb, it’s normal for your infant to go to sleep soon after eating. Babies don’t develop harmful habits or learn to self-soothe in the first few months, according to Parents advisor and Baby 411 author Ari Brown, M.D. However, “about 4 months, babies begin to adopt routine sleep habits due to brain maturation.”
If at this point in time the only thing that can put your child to sleep is feeding or rocking, you may have a problem on your hands. Parents expert and Sleeping Through the Night author Jodi Mindell, Ph.D., states, “Babies naturally wake up two to six times a night.” This implies that you must repeat whatever techniques you used to put your baby to sleep at bedtime whenever he awakens.
Solution for Sleep Training Baby
Establishing a nightly ritual can help your infant connect the following actions with falling asleep: Prepare them for sleep by giving them a bath, dressing them in pajamas, reading them a tale, and turning off the lights. Dr. Mindell recommends establishing a routine so that your baby can learn to associate bedtime with pleasant events. To help your baby associate sleep with being in their crib rather than in your arms, you should place them there before they are really tired.
Picking Baby Up Whenever They Cry
A whimpering baby prompts the natural desire to soothe the child. Also, for the first six months or so, you should go to them when they cry to reassure them that you will be there, but you should ideally wait a few minutes to see if they calm down on their own. Babies at first don’t understand the value of their tears till later on in life. Dr. Wittenberg claims that a 9-month-old would recall that she fussed the night before and was allowed to play by her mother until she fell asleep.
Solution for Sleep Training Baby
It’s time to go over your checklist: Is there food available for them to eat? Thirsty? Wet? Sick? Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., a psychologist in Lake Forest, Illinois, suggests the following approach (based on the Ferber Method, a sleep-training technique established by pediatrician Richard Ferber, M.D.) if your infant is screaming solely when you leave their side. Put the timer on for five minutes before you leave the room. A five-minute timeout is a good benchmark; if your baby is still screaming after that, go check on them and reassure yourself that everything is well. Return in five minutes to see if they’re still asleep. The following evening, divide the timer into 10-minute segments. Following that, etc. By the second or third night, your infant should have little trouble dozing off. Dr. Lombardo explains that, contrary to popular belief, babies do not appear neglected when they cry.
Extending Night Feedings
Like a cruise ship passenger, your kid will get used to the midnight buffet, even if they don’t need the extra calories. Moreover, “he grows habituated to waking up at the conclusion of a sleep cycle and thinking he needs to suck and eat in order to fall back to sleep,” as Dr. Brown puts it. Your kids are crying, but getting up to feed them is definitely simpler than listening to them. However, if your baby reaches six months of age and is developing healthily, you can stop feeding them in the middle of the night even though they may still want to. They will most likely be adamant, too. Loudly. Dr. Brown emphasizes that when you give in to a child’s sleep disturbances, you are only making the problem worse.
Not only will your baby’s on-demand midnight snacking disrupt your sleep schedule, but it may also influence how much your child consumes during the day. “Your baby receives so many calories at night that he doesn’t eat much during the day, so he’s hungry again at night,” adds Dr. Mindell. The introduction of solid foods could be hampered if nighttime feedings continued.
Solution for Sleep Training Baby
To encourage your infant to eat more during the day, you may wish to lock the kitchen door after the evening meal. To achieve this, you can wean your baby off breastfeeding by reducing the number of nursing sessions or the total amount of ounces you give them. Alternatively, you could quit cold turkey and have Dad put the baby back to sleep for a few nights if you’re nursing.
Napping on the Go
Dr. Mindell warns that if your baby is used to sleeping while on the go, such as in the stroller, he or she may have trouble falling asleep in their own bed. That makes home sleep training more difficult, especially for the baby. In addition, if naps have to be taken on the fly, routines will be disrupted. When asked why babies need to know “this is my rest time and this is my wake time,” Dr. Lombardo says, “Parents tend to imagine that we’ll just let the baby sleep when she wants to.”
Solution for Sleep Training Baby
Find out how long and how often your baby naps. Arrange your day so that your baby can take as many naps as possible in their crib. Dr. Mindell advises doing things carefully if people are resistant to change. Get her to snooze in the crib at least once a day, and then gradually increase the number of times she does so. While they’re sleeping, you can probably find something more enjoyable (or at least less taxing) to do than run errands or pick up dry cleaning.
Letting Your Baby Stay up late
A late bedtime can backfire if you expect your child to sleep longer and more soundly if you keep him or her up till his or her eyes are drooping. Dr. Mindell warns that babies who refuse to sleep throughout the day will become overtired. If this is the case, “they will have a harder time falling asleep and will wake up more frequently.” While a newborn’s sleep schedule may be all over the place at first, by around the third or fourth month, your child will be ready for bed by 7:30 or 8 p.m.
Solution for Sleep Training Baby
When your baby goes down for an evening nap, you can transition him or her directly into bedtime: “Bathe him, put him in his jammies, and just call it a night,” as Dr. Mindell advises. You can advance this new bedtime by 15 minutes every couple of days until you reach around 7 o’clock at night. The day is done!
It’s A Wrap!
Friends, that’s all there is to it.
Don’t worry if your child cries when being put to bed.
Many factors contribute to his position.
In any case, the aforementioned explanations were not news to you.
Friends, I hope today treats you well.